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Paulette Shelley

Paulette Shelley, BACP

United Kingdom

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BACP counsellor - Relationships and life purpose

  • Client-Centred approach
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
  • Relationship and trauma work

About Paulette

Paulette Shelley is a BACP counsellor in the United Kingdom with three years of experience. She works with adults facing relationship problems, trauma and abuse, anger, low self-esteem and depression. Paulette also offers support around life purpose and related concerns such as isolation, guilt, and obsessive thoughts.

Paulette uses a Person-Centred approach that focuses on what the client brings to each session. She listens without judging and helps clients put words to difficult feelings. She does not give direct advice but guides people to find their own solutions.

When patterns of behaviour or thought feel stuck, Paulette draws on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques to identify unhelpful thinking and try practical alternatives. Sessions can include talking through recent events, noticing thinking patterns, and trying small experiments between meetings.

Her work covers both short-term and longer-term concerns. Clients and Paulette agree what to focus on and adjust the work as needs change. Typical themes include grief and loss, anger, addiction-related issues, panic and obsessive-compulsive concerns.

Paulette also supports people dealing with the fallout of sexual assault, domestic violence, and cancer-related distress. She pays attention to attachment and control issues that affect relationships and everyday choices. She offers sessions in English and accepts international clients; practical arrangements are confirmed before booking.

Therapeutic approaches and online working

Client-Centred Therapy focuses on listening carefully to a person's experience and reflecting it back so they can make sense of feelings and choices. This approach helps when someone needs a non-directive space to sort out relationship problems, grief, or questions about life purpose.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) looks at how thoughts, feelings and behaviours link together and uses practical exercises to test new ways of thinking. CBT can be useful for managing low mood, panic, obsessive thinking and repetitive patterns that keep people stuck.

Finding the best approach is part of the work. Paulette will talk with each person about their goals and preferences and decide together which methods to use. That collaborative planning means the focus can change as needs shift during therapy.

Confirm the specific session formats with Paulette before booking, since the biography does not list particular options. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions around work or family life, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check-ins when needed. Registered or accredited professionals can adapt sessions to suit quieter time slots, lower bandwidth connections, or a brief telephone check-in depending on practical needs.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Relationship issuesTrauma and abuseAnger managementSelf esteemDepression

Additional focus areas

Attachment issuesCancerControl issuesDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionForgivenessGuilt and shameHoardingIsolation / lonelinessLife purposeObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksSelf-harmSelf-loveSexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Experience

3+ years

Listed in

United Kingdom

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does she help with?

Paulette works with relationship difficulties, trauma and abuse, anger, low self-esteem and depression. She also addresses related issues such as addiction, panic, obsessive thoughts, and life purpose concerns.

How would she approach someone feeling stuck?

She combines a Person-Centred way of listening with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tools. That means she helps people name feelings, examine thinking patterns, and try practical changes between sessions.

What experience does she have?

Paulette has three years of counselling experience working with adult clients on short-term and longer-term issues. Her work has included grief, trauma, and relationship problems.

What are her credentials and where is she based?

She is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and practises in the United Kingdom.

Can I see her if I live outside the UK?

Sessions are offered to international clients. Practical arrangements and any location-related details are confirmed before booking.

In which language are sessions held?

Sessions are held in English.

How much do sessions cost?

Cost varies with location and sessions are provided through a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time. Exact fees are made clear during sign-up.

How do I begin working with her?

Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session to get started.

Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger, use the crisis numbers.

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