- Relationship communication
- Grief and loss
- Finding life purpose
About Nicola
Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill is a counsellor and a registered member of the BACP with five years' experience in the UK. She helps people who are feeling stuck after changes in work, relationships or health. Her main areas include communication and relationships, finding meaning in life, and adjusting to change.
Nicki works with common emotional problems such as anxiety, low mood, panic attacks and low self-esteem. She also supports people dealing with bereavement, grief and loss, and those affected by trauma. Sessions focus on understanding what is happening now and finding practical ways to cope.
Her approach draws on attachment-based thinking and client-centred listening to understand how past relationships shape present feelings. Emotionally-Focused Therapy ideas are used when relationships are at the core of the difficulty. She also uses existential themes when people are questioning purpose and direction in life.
In conversation she favours direct, plain talk. She will listen to the facts of a person’s situation, reflect what she hears and help people try small changes between sessions. Work can include talking through difficult moments, practicing different ways of communicating, and testing out new routines for managing stress.
People often come wanting clearer next steps rather than labels. Nicki helps identify what matters now and practical ways to move forward. If life purpose or a shift in direction is part of the concern, she includes that as a focus alongside emotional and relationship work.
How her approaches translate to online work
Attachment-based work focuses on how early relationship patterns affect current reactions. Online sessions can be used to notice how people respond emotionally to questions about closeness and trust, and then practise different ways of relating.Client-centred therapy places emphasis on being heard and understood. In remote sessions this means time for people to tell their story, be reflected back, and to decide what practical steps to try next. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) concentrates on emotional responses within relationships and helps partners or individuals name feelings and try new interactions.
Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss goals and preferences and together decide which methods to use. That choice can shift as sessions progress and new priorities emerge.
The biography does not list which online formats are offered, so confirm session options before booking. Remote sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week, allow shorter check-ins when needed, and remove travel time. Many people find online work helps maintain continuity after a life change and makes regular sessions simpler to manage.
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Experience
5+ years
Listed in
United Kingdom
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does she help with?
She works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, trauma, grief, life changes, ADHD and addictions among other concerns.
How would she approach feeling stuck or directionless?
She uses client-centred listening and attachment-based ideas to clarify what matters now and to try practical steps between sessions.
What is her experience and background?
She has five years' experience and experience specifically with bereavement, grief and trauma as described in her biography.
What credential does she hold and where is she based?
She is a registered member of the BACP and practises in the United Kingdom.
Can people who do not live in the UK work with her?
She accepts international clients and offers sessions to people outside the UK in English.
What session formats are available?
The biography does not specify session formats; please confirm current session options before booking.
How are fees handled?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin a first appointment?
Use the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
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